But the point of being in love is not so that you can be perfect. The point of being in love is to form a connection with someone that allows you both to truly, actually be yourselves, especially on the days where you’re feeling vulnerable, or tired, or even… boring.
In the beginning stages of a budding relationship, people will tell you some version of the same advice: “Be yourself.”
They have good intentions. What they’re trying to say is: be comfortable, have fun, enjoy yourself, be genuine. They want you to be able to have a good time and to show this person who you truly are.
But what frequently happens is that people take “be yourself” to mean that you have to be the most ideal version of yourself.
If you’re smart, do everything in your power to show this person how incredibly intelligent you are. If you’re funny, make them laugh as hard and as often as possible. If you’re compassionate, overwhelm them with how much compassion you have at all times.
Be yourself – in the most perfect, flawless, and unattainable way possible.
But the point of being in love is not so that you…
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